To all of you single guys out there, we understand your struggle. We’re talking about the struggle of finding a special girl to date, not one of the Instagram hoes or the club rats that are light weight alcoholics. We understand you spend most of your time at work, so you practically have no free time to dedicate to dating and chat apps. All a single man wants at the end of the day is a great girl to come home to, to spend time with, to experience life with. That’s where we come in; we can give you the tools to find these women despite how busy you are or how much you’ve given up on finding someone special.

1. Get online.

Every single man needs to utilize dating sites and dating apps to find the perfect woman for him. Getting online opens up the world of dating to whole new limits (or lack thereof). There are literally millions of singles out there, so why limit yourself to the people you see every day? Some people assume that all dating apps are sleazy, and all dating sites are cheesy. This is far from the truth! There are tons of dating apps out there that fights the standard sleazy vibe and instead are classy, mature, and are perfect for finding someone special. A few examples are apps like The League and Bumble. The League hand picks who can use their app versus who cannot, so they’re only allowing high-quality people to join. They look for classy, intelligent people who are serious about finding a relationship. And Bumble is pretty cool too, their whole thing is that only women can reach out to men, not the other way around. This way, when a woman reaches out to you, it’s guaranteed that she’s into you. It basically skips a step!

2. Utilize your connections.

Who knows you better than your friends, family, and maybe even co-workers? Probably no one. So use these people to find the perfect person for you. What do we mean by this? Ask them if them if they know of any single women that you would be interested in! Let them know that you want to get back in the dating game and tell them to keep you in mind to set you up with people. You’re probably thinking this sounds desperate, right? You’re wrong; it’s more charming than anything! And who knows, you could be missing out on meeting your best friend’s gorgeous single sister in law, or your coworker’s single best friend that’s perfect for you! Basically, you won’t know unless you ask, and are you going to rob yourself of meeting someone special because you have too much pride to ask for help?

3. Put yourself out there.

I bet you can think of 20 times that you’ve been in a store, at a restaurant, or even at church and thought a woman was beautiful. Well, instead of not doing about it, you should be a single man with some confidence and walk up and introduce yourself. What do you have to lose?! Worst case scenario she’ll make it known that she isn’t interested, and then you’re left in the same place you started. No love lost, no love found right? You need to start facing the opportunities that are right in front of you, because if you don’t, you’re missing out on a lot of potentials. And if she shuts you down, you can’t get discouraged. There are tons of single women out there who are looking for a single man like you, remember that!

4. Make it clear what you want, and don’t play games.

As the old saying goes, treat people the way you want to be treated. Well, the same goes for dating. If you want to meet someone special, you need to treat them special and present yourself as if you’re someone special for them too. What I mean by that is, always be courteous, kind, and don’t play games with them. Treat them with respect! Never pursue a woman unless you know exactly what you want. If you just want to get laid, then go to the closest strip club or get on Tinder. But if you want to meet someone special that you can consider a partner, then you need to make sure you make that clear. I’m not saying force the thought of marriage down her throat, but on the first few dates make it clear that you’re ready to settle down.

5. Meet her at places you care about.

Are you obsessed with baseball? Approach a woman at your favorite team’s game. Passionate about volunteering for the homeless? Introduce yourself to a woman who’s doing the same. Whatever it is you’re interested in, there’s bound to be some single women there too that are interested in the same stuff as you. And what’s better than meeting someone who cares about the same stuff you do? Nothing!